The decision to pursue a romantic relationship after consideration of your mental state indicates emotional stability and increased levels of self-awareness. This is a big step, and even if you feel prepared to start a romance, your intended partner may not feel the same way. When your advances are not met with the desired reaction, you may feel embarrassed, anxious, depressed, or alone. It is easy to submit to these negative feelings, but you are strong enough to handle the temporary pain of rejection.
It’s Not Me, but It’s Not You, Either!
Neither person carries the blame for the failed relationship attempt. You may be quick to blame the other person, especially if they offer the hackneyed explanation, “It’s not you, it’s me.” Their reluctance to initiate a romantic relationship does not mean that they are a bad or malicious person; in fact, they may care very deeply about you and prefer to continue a friendship rather than a romance. This person likely wants to protect both their emotions and yours, and they feel that a serious relationship might harm one or both of you.
It’s not your fault, either, though. You may be quick to list all of your perceived flaws that you believe detract from your desirability as a romantic partner, but this unhealthy practice will only leave you feeling sad and angry. The right partner for you will love you for all that you are, including the parts of you that you may not like right now. Rather than dwell on negative feelings, think of the incredible achievements you have made in recovery.
Don’t Give Up
One person may have turned down your relationship request, but that doesn’t mean the next person to whom you are attracted to will do the same thing. If you want a relationship, keep your mind and heart open! You are a confident, competent, and kind person who deserves a healthy relationship with somebody who loves every part of you.
Developing a romantic relationship can be difficult, regardless of where you are in your recovery journey. At Avalon Malibu, we want you to be an active participant in your recovery. Our dedicated team of mental health professionals can equip you with the right tools to cope with daily stresses, including relationship struggles, that you can utilize within and outside the facility. Our commitment to offering diverse treatment options means that each person can enjoy a unique rehabilitation experience tailored to their individual needs. If you or a loved one is struggling with addiction and/or mental health issues, call us today at (844) 857-5992.
