We live in a society where in this very moment many things seem uncertain. From a global pandemic to social rights movements and political rifts, there seem to be many reasons for tears in friendships and relationships. Right now is a time where as a society it is better to band together and remember what is most important. If you feel like you’re struggling to make friends or keep up friendships and aren’t sure why, the following may help you take a look at what the cause could be.
Loneliness is a feeling that has become more common as time has passed. In 2018 a study of 20,000 Americans showcased that half of them felt left out or alone and over 25 percent of them reported they felt as if there was nobody that could understand them and felt lonely. The first is being introverted. This can be feelings of insecurity, especially when meeting new people.
People that are shy experience uneasiness when put into new situations. Introverts need to recharge after being around people. People typically make them feel drained or exhausted after a lot of interaction. It can be difficult for them to interact how extroverts naturally act.
Another reason is the fear of rejection. It is helpful to use fear at times to prevent you from saying something you don’t mean or getting into a fight with someone. However, fear of rejection can be crippling. It limits your ability to connect with people because you’re constantly worried about what they’re thinking about you.
This leads to feeling inadequate or less than a lot of times. Sometimes people feel like they can’t be heard because they’re afraid of speaking up for themselves. Another reason briefly mentioned already, is insecurity. People that feel insecure or have low self-esteem believe themselves worthless.
This causes fear or worry about getting close to people because they typically feel that people don’t really like them. Last reason is low trust. Some people have had a bad experience and struggle leaving that in the past. Letting people in is difficult and getting vulnerable can feel uncomfortable at times.
It can cause a person to think they’re too picky as well. Mostly because they have expectations of people who are impossible to meet. They may think that they are limiting their time to specific situations or people who make them comfortable. In reality they are just afraid of letting people in.
Avalon Malibu can help you cultivate friendships and help ease social anxiety with group therapy techniques. If you find yourself feeling lonely and struggling with relationships due to mental health or substance use disorders call Avalon Malibu today at (844) 857-5992.
